Sunday, December 30, 2007
Taking yet another step
Wednesday, December 26, 2007
King Wensaslaus and Saint Stephen
The Christmas season which is celebrated in the Church from the Feast of the Nativity of the Lord (December 25) until the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord is characterized by joy and festivities of various sorts. In particular the music of this time is some of the most well known throughout the world. Various melodies have been adapted and words inserted depending on various languages and customs, but regardless, the musical traditions are among the most well known.
Take for example the English carol Good King Wesceslaus. According to one source, the words to this carol were composed in 1853 but the music has been in existence since the sixteenth century. The carol in question refers to the Feast of Saint Stephen, a deacon in the early Church who is believed to be the first Martyr. Stephen is venerated as a saint in both the Roman Catholic Church and the Orthodox Church.
According to the account written in the Acts of the Apostles, the apostles and the early Christians appointed 7 deacons to attend to such things as the distribution of aid to elderly widows. Probably a Hellenist himself, Stephen was well known for his oratory skills. In fact the account of his martyrdom speaks of the fact that even as he was being stoned as punishment for apparently having spoken out against the Sanhedrin, for blasphemy against Moses and for speaking out against the Temple and the Law (Acts 6:13-14), he continued to teach about Jesus and the Gospel he had come to proclaim.
The first evidence of Saint Stephen being venerated in the Church dates back to the fifth century. The first mention of veneration of the Tomb of Saint Stephen appears in 415 AD. When Christian pilgrims were traveling in large numbers to Jerusalem, a priest by the name of Lucian apparently reported knowledge of Stephen's tomb existing somewhere north of Jerusalem.
In some parts of the world, Saint Stephen's Day is a public holiday but it continues to be an observance of one of the oldest recognized days consecrated to the memory of one of our own who dedicated his life to the service of the Church, to helping the poor and the abandoned of his time. The mission of the Church continues even today, and is perhaps nowhere more recognized than when we concentrate on the needs of the less fortunate among us.
As we give thanks today for the abundant blessings that are ours, let us not forget that the fortune we have is indeed very rare, and that there are many this day who still seek the most basic of comforts, the welcome and warmth which can be called home, and the acceptance of others who truly love us and who share a part of their story of faith with us.
Christmas for children
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas
Monday, December 24, 2007
'Twas the night before Christmas
Sunday, December 23, 2007
Joseph gets his moment in the sun
Friday, December 21, 2007
Simple acts
Thursday, December 20, 2007
The Annunciation
Wednesday, December 19, 2007
Out of the mouths of babes
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Who is my neighbour?
Sunday, December 16, 2007
Exceding joy
Thursday, December 13, 2007
Angels among us
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
Renaming the season
Monday, December 10, 2007
Setting the tone
Sunday, December 9, 2007
Times, they are a changin'
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
Call it what it is
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Where your heart is
Monday, December 3, 2007
On hope
An initial commentary published by ZENIT is only the beginning. The now well-known blog Whispers in the Loggia quickly provided a link to the text, and in the coming days will doubtless publish at least one commentary about it.
Perhaps the contemplatives among us have gotten it right for years. In the midst of a world that seems to be chasing its tail at times in search of hope, the answer has been right in front of our eyes all along. God himself is the source of hope, and Advent calls us to rediscover the simple truth of (re)turning to Him who is the remedy for cultural despair.
Sunday, December 2, 2007
For whom the bell tolls
Signs of hope
Sunday, November 25, 2007
With straight and crooked lines
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Will one thing
Monday, November 19, 2007
Connecting the dots
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Shelter from the storm
The women in All Our Sisters are remarkably resourceful. They have found their own ways to live in a constantly changing world. Without an address, they cannot get a social insurance number or a job. Without a home they risk loosing their children. Our social security system has forced many to hide or to stretch the truth to maintain the few things they have. Each of the women has learned to cope in some way with what life has brought them. Most are grateful for the charity that they have found.
Some shelters are run by faith based groups doing outreach work in their communities. These groups do not pride themselves in being there to save the world, but rather in being a safe place. Many shelters offer not only a roof and a meal, but a listening ear and a caring heart. It is through the work of these shelter workers that many lives have been changed. In story after story, many women recount how they have found salvation. Many recall the moment they found God in their lives. Some have turned their lives into living examples of God’s work in this world. They themselves are now working in the missions where they sought refuge.
In these instances women were not preached over or prayed over, but rather listened to and cared for.
While we may often wonder why some lives are so difficult, perhaps these should be seen as our challenge put forward by God. How can we offer support that is more than prayers and preaching? Next time you see someone without shelter, think of what you can do to be God’s living example, to reach out and lend a hand.
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Love one another
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Finding a place for everyone
Sunday, November 11, 2007
What's the fuss
Thursday, November 8, 2007
Seek first
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
Wake up
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Do, or do not. There is no try.
Life provides us with many opportunities to try things, without committing ourselves wholeheartedly: we try on clothes, we try a new shampoo, we test drive a car - in all these cases, if we are not satisfied with the results, we don't have to commit to them; we can just leave them behind and move on to the next opportunity.
But some things in life are not ours just for the trying. In some cases, we truly must be committed in order to get the full benefit of the experience. I remember once speaking with a pastoral supervisor about my own tentativeness to leave the comfort of the rectory and to meet people who were complete strangers to me. He agreed that for some people, this can be a stressful experience, but the reality is that if we face our fears, sometimes the source of fear can also end up being the source of greatest blessings and riches.
Jesus himself found many interested bystanders who welcomed the opportunity to receive the food he offered when he fed the five thousand, but shortly afterward when he called them to follow him even unto death, many bystanders fled the scene. He then turned to the disciples and asked them too if they were about to leave him - or were they committed to 'doing' rather than 'trying' this life of service to which he had called them.
On the day of our baptism, we too were invited to 'do' and not to merely stay on the periphery, 'trying out' our faith. The question is, are you willing to do faith, or do you want to stay on the surface and continue trying it until you find the best fit?
Friday, November 2, 2007
Believe
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
The Lost Sayings
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Can we define God?
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Questions of faith for today's generation
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Nurturing, love and caring
There is a story told of a professor performing a demonstration in front of his class. First he takes larger rocks and places them in a jar. He asks the class, “Is this jar full?” The eager students answer in the affirmative. Next he adds medium sized stones to fill in spaces left by the larger rocks and again he asks, “Is the jar full?” Again the students confirm that it is. The wise professor then adds smaller stones filling more spaces. When asked, “Is this jar full?” again the students respond that it is. Finally the professor fills the remaining spaces with sand. “What lesson can you learn from this demonstration?” asks the professor. The students sit in silence until the professor explains, “The truth in this illustration is, first make room for the big things, for family, friends, spiritual life, what ever is important to you and then fit the other things around them. Because if you do not fit the big things in first, you will never get them in at all.”
In Daniel Goleman’s final chapter Social Consequence we are reminded of the need for security or a safe environment in which mistakes can be made and corrected. We need the freedom to feel safe as we are corrected. These corrections can be found in positive personal connections.
In our Catholic experience we are called into the sacrament of reconciliation with our God. This is our safe environment in which we can explain to God and our confessor the nature of our sins and to be forgiven. We leave the confessional absolved of our sins and free to live as a reflection of God’s love in this world. It is beneficial to go to the same confessor because our continued confessions enable him to see more clearly the true inner state of our soul and to understand better the occasions of our sin. A consistent confessor can be essential to “de-frazzle” our spiritual lives.
The scientific world has made many amazing discoveries about the inner workings of the human mind and the effect of nurturing, love, and caring on health and society. These issues have each been addressed in the teachings of Jesus Christ. The centuries-old wisdom of the Church is now up-held by modern science. “Love one another”, reach out to someone else, connect with them and the world will benefit. As science and Christianity have proven, our social brains were made for this purpose.
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Healthy Consequences
If stress is social, relieving the stress of others will relieve stress for all. The better we connect with others the better our health and their health will become. Jesus’s words spoke to caring for others as keys to the kingdom of Heaven. In the chapter entitled Healthy Consequences, Daniel Goleman’s book Social Intelligence speaks of how twenty-first century science can now demonstrate that caring for others will indeed bring a little bit of heaven down to earth for all of us.
While it is easy to care for our loved ones and those close to us, the true challenge lies in reaching out to others, connecting with them and demonstrating true Christian ideals.
As a Christian living in the increasingly disconnected twenty-first century, consider taking some time to reach out to someone you sense may be in need. Challenge yourself to find the hungry, the thirsty, the strangers, the sick or the imprisoned who share this world with us and to become living examples of God’s love. Not only will you be fulfilling God’s call, you may also be benefiting your own health.
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Love's Varieties
Goleman clinically dissects love into three categories:
- attachment,
- care giving, and
- sex,
each of which is controlled by brain chemistry and wiring.
Attachment is the type of love that brings us together and causes us to miss someone when they are absent. Care giving love gives us the desire to nurture people for whom we have concern. Sexual love involves physical togetherness. To further complicate the already complex emotion called love, the male and female brains respond differently to the same stimuli. In new relationships the male brain responds to physical attributes in a would-be partner, while the female brain responds to the partner’s ability to provide.
Research has shown that relationships offering a secure base from which one can venture out into the world also provides the most healthy benefits. The more positive moments that a couple shares and the more opportunities that they have for togetherness, the stronger their relationship will be. As partners spend time together their brains wire in similar patterns. Partners may mimic each others facial expressions to the point where as they age partners begin to wrinkle in similar patterns causing them to look alike.
This talk of love calls to mind the advise offered by Saint Paul to the Corinthians (1 Cor 4 -8) “Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Patience and kindness are both attributes of care giving. The ability to demonstrate concern for the needs of your partner, agreeing to do things together without resentment or anger and remaining truthful to each other are all signs of attuning to the needs of your partner. Science now shows that these attributes spoken about by Saint Paul will contribute to a long martial union that will bear all things, believe all things, hope all things and endure all things. These ancient words spoken at many wedding ceremonies are truly the keys to a long and lasting relationship.
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Nurturing nature
There was a time when science believed a child’s brain stopped growing early in life and that the time to impact personality occurred in that small window of time while a child was less than five years old. Recent medical technology now shows that the human brain continues to grow and develop into young adulthood. As a child interacts with people the brain responds. With every interaction a child’s brain forms connections and the wiring in the brain grows like branches on a tree. As connections are made and nurtured these connections strengthen. Unused connections are pruned.
For adults, this knowledge is a call to attune to the needs of children and to support environments for positive brain growth and wiring. Some may mistakenly believe that this means we need to protect children from all of the harms in this world. Children need to learn to deal with the good and the bad in a secure environment where mistakes can be learned from. Adults can model appropriate reactions to stressful situations and disappointment so that children learn how to deal with such situations. As children learn from these situations their brains adapt and build resiliency: the ability to bounce back in stressful times.
An African proverb enlightens us saying “It takes a village to raise a child”. The Christian village will reflect God’s love and help our children to grow in a nurturing environment. We may never know the full effect of our relationships with children. We may not understand what our words - or a hug or a smile - may change for a child. But as living examples of God’s love in this world it is important that we demonstrate to children how important they are to each of us.
Wednesday, October 10, 2007
Living examples
As Goleman discusses in his chapter Broken Bonds, a variety of maladjusted personality types may be formed by genetic or environmental forces that create disconnections in the brain wiring of some people.
There are instances in which a person may be born lacking the brain chemistry to read emotions as displayed by others and thus be unable to connect or to bond. In other situations the people in our lives may have a negative effect on our ability to connect. Absent or emotionally cold caretakers may impact the brain circuitry of their charges leaving them feeling disconnected with the world and people in it.
This calls forth the need for compassion for all. As people living in this world it is easy to connect to people who respond in socially accepted or expected ways. But what about those who through no fault of their own may lack this ability. As living examples of Christ’s work in this world it becomes our responsibility to model Christ’s love as an example for disconnected people. We need to offer compassionate connections to all people, whether they connect to us in return or not. As Christ often chose to interact with people in his world who may have been considered less favourably by society, it is important for us to reach out to those less “favourable” people in our society. Will you chose to be a living example of Christ to the world? Perhaps your example of love will help reshape another persons brain wiring.
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
The incredible brain
Advances in medical technology have allowed scientists to view the brain and its workings under a variety of conditions. Our brains not only think, but also control emotions and thus in turn can set the tone for relationships in our lives. Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) technology has shown that the chemistry and neuro connections in our brains change when we interact with others. In essence we are “wired” to connect with other people.
Our brains will react to people in two ways. The “low road” very quickly senses or takes in information about another person and responds on a “gut” level. The “high road” or thinking brain takes longer to respond and measures reactions against previous knowledge and experience. Most of us have the ability to suppress those first gut instincts and take time to respond in socially acceptable ways. I'm sure we have all encountered instances in our lives when our gut reaction to an event is strong but we catch ourselves in time to measure our response.
Social intelligence, Goleman concludes, consists of social awareness, the ability to instantly sense someone else’s emotional state and social faculty which allows a person to build on that awareness and effectively interact with others.
It seems to me that Jesus Christ had this in mind when he instructed us to “Love one another as I have loved you” (Jn 15:12). It is through the teachings of Christ that we as Christians see others as reflections of God and learn to connect to them. By taking time to get to know another person we are building and enhancing social connections in our brains which in turn is a benefit to all of us. In an increasingly disconnected world filled with many “anti-social” devices, including cellphones and MP3 players, many are left with the feeling of being left out of society. Next time you have the opportunity to connect with someone new or turn on your personal music player, consider taking the time to reach out and find the reflection of God in that other person.
Over the next couple days we will look deeper into the theories and science presented in Social Intelligence and we will learn how the teaching of Christ are well supported by modern scientific discoveries.